Question 1

Will they ever know it was me?

Accepted Answer

Not unless you choose to reveal yourself. Your IF stays completely anonymous. The person only learns who sent it after the timing is right and you approve the reveal. If you never approve, they never know.

Question 2

Is IF free?

Accepted Answer

Yes. Sending your first IF, receiving and revealing IFs, sending Likes to singles, and chatting with your connections are all free. Upgrading to IF or IFinity unlocks more IFs, enhanced visibility, and expanded preferences, with a 7-day free trial.

Question 3

How does an IF actually work?

Accepted Answer

You write a private message to someone you have feelings for and send it as an IF. It stays hidden and anonymous. IF the timing is ever right, you're notified and given 24 hours to approve the reveal or quietly withdraw. Once approved, they see your message and profile — and if they accept, the conversation begins.

Question 4

What if the person I like is already in a relationship?

Accepted Answer

That's exactly what IF is built for. You can send an IF to someone who isn't available right now. It waits, completely hidden, and only surfaces IF they ever become single — giving real feelings a chance they'd never otherwise get.

Question 5

What if they never become single — does my message just sit there forever?

Accepted Answer

It stays private and hidden, always. If the right moment never comes, your IF is never revealed and they never know it existed. Nothing ever happens without the timing being right and your approval.

Question 6

Can I take it back?

Accepted Answer

Anytime before it's revealed. You're always in control — withdraw your IF whenever you like and it disappears as though it was never sent.

Question 7

What's the difference between an IF and a Like?

Accepted Answer

A Like is for someone who's single and ready to connect now — a familiar way to show interest. An IF is for feelings that need the right moment: it's held privately and only ever revealed IF the timing becomes right.

Question 8

Can I send an IF to someone who isn't on IF yet?

Accepted Answer

Yes. You can send an IF to someone off-platform using their email address, phone number, or Instagram handle. If they ever join and the timing is right, your IF is waiting for them.

Question 9

How does IF know the timing is right?

Accepted Answer

The moment hinges on availability. When the person you sent an IF to becomes single, the timing is right — and that's when you're notified to approve or withdraw the reveal.

Question 10

Is IF safe? How is my privacy protected?

Accepted Answer

Privacy is the foundation of IF. Your identity and your message stay hidden until you choose to reveal them. A notification only tells someone that an IF exists for them — never who sent it or what it says — until you approve. You can read more in our Safety Tips and Privacy Policy.

Question 11

Who can I send an IF to?

Accepted Answer

Anyone you have feelings for — whether they're single, in a relationship, or not even on IF yet. The IF simply waits for the right moment, with your identity protected the whole time.

Question 12

What do IF and IFinity cost, and what's free?

Accepted Answer

Everything you need to send your first IF is free. IF and IFinity unlock more IFs, enhanced visibility, and expanded preferences, and start with a 7-day free trial. See our Membership page for full details.

Question 13

Do I have to be 18?

Accepted Answer

Yes. IF is only for adults aged 18 and over.

Question 14

What happens when someone accepts?

Accepted Answer

Once your reveal is approved and they accept, you become a connection and the conversation opens. From there it's an ordinary chat — the hard part, saying how you felt, is already done.