FAQ

Not before the timing is right. Your IF stays private and sealed: they may be told an IF is waiting, but never who sent it or what it says. It opens only once you're both single — if they become single first, you get 24 hours to approve the reveal or let it lapse, and if you're the one in a relationship, it reveals when you set your status to single.

Yes. Sending your first IF, receiving and revealing IFs, sending Likes to singles, and chatting with your connections are all free. Upgrading to IF or IFinity unlocks more IFs, enhanced visibility, and expanded preferences, with a 7-day free trial.

You write a private message to someone you have feelings for and send it as an IF. It stays sealed, and it only ever opens IF you're both single: if they become single while you are, you get 24 hours to approve the reveal or let it lapse; if you're the one in a relationship, it reveals when you set your status to single. Once revealed, they see your message and profile — and if they accept, the conversation begins.

That's exactly what IF is built for. You can send an IF to someone who isn't available right now. It waits, sealed, and only surfaces IF they ever become single and you approve the reveal — giving real feelings a chance they'd never otherwise get, without a word reaching them while they're taken.

It stays private and sealed. If the right moment never comes, your IF is never revealed: they may be told an IF is waiting, but never who sent it or what it says. Nothing is revealed until you're both single.

On the IF and IFinity plans, yes: withdraw an unrevealed IF and it disappears as though it was never sent. On any plan, if they become single first and you'd rather stay hidden, simply let the 24-hour reveal window pass.

A Like is for someone who's single and ready to connect now — a familiar way to show interest. An IF is for feelings that need the right moment: it's held privately and only ever revealed IF the timing becomes right.

Yes. You can send an IF to someone off-platform using their email address, phone number, or Instagram handle. By email they get one short invitation; by phone or handle, nothing is sent at all. If they ever join and the timing is right, your IF is waiting for them.

The timing is right when you're both single. If they set their status to single while you're single, you're notified and have 24 hours to approve the reveal. If you're the one in a relationship, your IF reveals when you set your own status to single.

Privacy is the foundation of IF. Your identity and your message stay sealed until your IF is revealed. A notification only tells someone that an IF exists for them — never who sent it or what it says. You can read more in our Safety Tips and Privacy Policy.

Anyone you have feelings for while the timing is wrong: someone in a relationship, anyone while you're in one, or someone not on IF yet. If you're both single and they're on IF, send a Like instead — it's the way to connect now.

Everything you need to send your first IF is free. IF and IFinity unlock more IFs, enhanced visibility, and expanded preferences, and start with a 7-day free trial. See our Membership page for full details.

Yes. IF is only for adults aged 18 and over.

Once your IF is revealed and they accept, you become a connection and the conversation opens. From there it's an ordinary chat — the hard part, saying how you felt, is already done.